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Post by (¯`•*~Bluey~*•._) on May 2, 2007 0:10:32 GMT -5
It all started last year when I met this guy in the school band and I started liking him but he moved away(like halfway across the country ). But we started talking through MSN(throughout this year). My friend knew about this and kept telling me to ask him to be my boyfriend but I was too shy so she sent him a letter and it all worked out. But my friend is now holding this against me and using it to get things from me because "she did a big favor for me now I should do favors for her". I confronted her about this problem and she just said "I was joking" but after a while she starts abusing it again! And I keep asking her not to use it against me and again she just says she's joking. Any tips to help me out? Please??
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Post by Michael S on May 2, 2007 16:14:24 GMT -5
You need to be firm and let her know exactly what you mean. Let her know what will happen if she continues to be insensitive to your feelings.
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Post by James on May 2, 2007 17:43:46 GMT -5
Forget all about what she has said in the past and ask her to aswell. if she doesn't and she keeps saying things then i wouldn't class her of a true friend. Say something like "if you don't stop i won't be friends with her" if she says fine then just ignor her for a few weeks.
After a few weeks has gone you should be missing her as a friend and the same for her. and hopefully you should be friends again!
(Im not saying this method will work but just an idea)
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Post by (¯`•*~Bluey~*•._) on May 2, 2007 23:03:38 GMT -5
Ok, thanks! She also ignores me at times and gets mad at me for no reason and we get into a lot of "debates" ^_^;
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Post by ~pOsh anD frAgiLe~ on May 3, 2007 0:10:02 GMT -5
A friend helps a friend no matter what; if by any chances favours granted are used to abuse someone, the friendship is not real. Let's see, so you didn't even bug her and ask her to send this guy a letter right? So it was her own decision to help you. It's not like you were asking for it, I think. Tell her what you feel, and tell her straight that the "jokes" don't really seem to be jokes after all. You feel uncomfortable; tell her about it. Have a clear and serious talk. Talk things over, and be clear with EVERYTHING so that nothing would be kept in the dark. If she values the friendship, she should understand.
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Post by Michael S on May 3, 2007 0:11:39 GMT -5
Excellent advise make sure she knows you are serious and you dont like her jokes.
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Post by (¯`•*~Bluey~*•._) on May 3, 2007 23:33:43 GMT -5
A friend helps a friend no matter what; if by any chances favours granted are used to abuse someone, the friendship is not real. Let's see, so you didn't even bug her and ask her to send this guy a letter right? So it was her own decision to help you. It's not like you were asking for it, I think. Tell her what you feel, and tell her straight that the "jokes" don't really seem to be jokes after all. You feel uncomfortable; tell her about it. Have a clear and serious talk. Talk things over, and be clear with EVERYTHING so that nothing would be kept in the dark. If she values the friendship, she should understand. You are very right and I will. Thank you very much. I never did ask her to send that email and I told my boyfriend about this and he said around the same things. Thank you all so much !!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by Michael S on May 4, 2007 0:00:24 GMT -5
Thats what where here for Anytime you need help just ask
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